Do you ever have those days as a mama where you feel like you are drowning and help is not in sight? Or days where you feel like your children are some sort of bad parasite that you picked up on your last vacation? Don’t worry, you’re not alone.
From the time we found out that we finally got pregnant with Søren we knew that he was going to be a lively one. Our midwife warned us that he was going to “hit the ground running” when he was doing flips in his first ultrasound. Everything he does, he does with 110% of his little body. When he is happy, he is extremely happy. He loves and cries so viscerally, it’s really amazing sometimes. Often for me it feels so beyond overwhelming that I wonder what we got ourselves into. I typically don’t get anything done during the day and have to wrestle him for 30 minutes to an hour before he will go down for an hour nap with me, or a 30 minute nap on his own. Dishes go dirty, laundry piles up, work backs up, and my anxiety runs high when I’m not able to sit down and get stuff done or simply have time for myself. He seems to be the polar opposite of Aiden when it comes to everything. Either that or any bad memories of Aiden as a baby have long faded away. If I’m not holding him or giving him my direct attention, he’s whining at me or screaming at me. He’s my little velcro baby.
We’ve considered hiring help, either to watch him during the day so that I can have time to myself or get things done, or to help out around the house with chores, but so far nothing has panned out. Right now the best solution has been for me to work at night for a few hours while he sleeps and enjoy all the time that I have during the day with my koala baby before he grows up. I joined a local club full of other mama’s to socialize with and let the kids play together. Getting out of the house has been a huge key to not going crazy with two little ones. It really helps to know that you are really not alone.